I believe that we’re all in the process of becoming more human, each of us in our own way and at our own pace. For over 25 years it has been my great privilege and honor to accompany people on their evolving path of growing in freedom, responsibility, consciousness and compassion. I am an author of six books. You can read a retrospective of my work here. As well as practice psychotherapy, I am an international keynote speaker and workshop leader on evolutionary spirituality. Read my curriculum vitae.
It’s a true privilege to be with individuals and couples as they come to understand their motivations, become more conscious of why they do what they do, and come to realize the life they’ve always wanted. What qualifies me for this role in your life is only superficially related to professional accreditation. More important by far is my commitment to becoming more human myself, to nurturing vulnerability, self-respect and dignity in myself.
There is no all purpose map for psychotherapy. We’re all unique individuals. Like you, I resent being categorized, or fit into a one-size-fits-all, step by step, program. It’s only in the context of two individuals beings as honest and authentic as possible with each other that one’s original health and wholeness begins to manifest. Some of us have been waiting all our lives for this kind of relationship. My training, background, and personal development enables me to be a guide through unknown territory. My role is not to fix you. but to walk with you, open to you, and listen for aspects of our life that only arise in the context of trust.
There are no blueprints for the process of psychotherapy because we each are unrepeatable expressions of what it means to be human. We experience both great ecstasy and deep sorrow. There are times in life when we feel absolutely alone. Our shadows can rise up like monsters from the depth, but then at other times we are full of love. We feel self-hatred, but also the tenderness of self-compassion. There are times in life when we need to take resolute action, and other times when what is being called for is a period of uncomfortable waiting, trusting that a benevolent Life force is living us. Truly, my deepest intuition is that we are expressions of a mysterious force that has as its goal the completion of love in the human species, and that this power is decidedly for us.
On a more personal note, I love film. My favourite scene is in Pulp Fiction, when Vincent (John Travolta) and Mia (Uma Thurman) are in Jack Rabbit Slim’s diner, sipping chocolate milk shakes, connecting through a cocaine consciousness and end up on the dance floor winning the twist contest. I love big ideas that temporarily create the illusion that life is more comprehensible than it actually is. I read a lot, and my favourite book is often the last one that I just closed . I love Federer’s forehand. I hate it when he loses. I love my dog, Koa, and his insistence on connecting. I love looking into the eyes of my wife, Mia, and dissolving in gratitude. I love when community just happens. I love grilled cheese sandwiches, with home made tomato soup. I still love cinnamon buns, even though I rarely eat them, but have yet to come across one that is better than my mom made. I love when I’m meditating and my mind actually stops churning, and my heart falls into a natural rhythm, and there is no place I’d rather be. There’s a sparrow who pecks at my window these winter days, who I’m growing to love. I love the thick, variegated bark of the Douglas Firs in Pacific Spirit park. I play a little guitar when the mood strikes. I love witnessing human beings live into their fullness of being and discovering their unique destiny.