self-actualization
People Pleasing – An Overview
This post: People-pleasing: an overview is an introduction to people-pleaser psychology. People-pleasing arises from a deeply ingrained belief, often formed in childhood, that one is not enough as they are. This belief drives the need to generate added value to justify one’s existence. At its core, people-pleasing stems from the idea that one’s natural self—spontaneous … Read more
Read MoreThe Past Is Not Dead. It’s Not Even Past.
“The past is not dead. It’s not even past.” — William Faulkner The Past Is Our Default Setting : The Hidden Neural Loops Most of us, most of the time, live in and through the past. But the past isn’t just what happened back then. It’s the neural networks grooved into our brains, shaped by … Read more
Read MoreYour Guide to Ending People Pleasing
The ultimate guide to ending people pleasing is intended to give you some practice guidance about what people pleasing is and how to end it. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of putting others’ needs above your own, saying “yes” when you want to say “no,” or constantly seeking approval, you’re not alone. … Read more
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The Elusive Mystery of Happiness – Part 1
Ever noticed that the more you try to find happiness directly, the more it eludes your grasp? My hunch is that this is because happiness isn’t properly a goal of life. It’s a feeling that happens when you get some other things right. The U.S. Declaration of Independence affirms that the “pursuit of happiness” … Read more
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What Are You Trying to Prove?
What are you trying to prove? Maybe you’ve heard this one directed at you when you did something reckless or annoying. Minus the emotion and directed objectively toward ourselves it can be revealing, even healing. When taken seriously, as a question of self-inquiry, (and not as an attack) it gets at what’s driving our emotional … Read more
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