False Self
Preference Falsification Keeps You Stuck In the Past
Preference falsification keeps you stuck in the past. It is the act of misrepresenting your true preferences or beliefs to align with social expectations or avoid conflict or disapproval. It occurs when individuals publicly express opinions or preferences that differ from their private ones, often out of fear of judgment, punishment, or social ostracism. The … Read more
Read MoreThe Past Is Not Dead. It’s Not Even Past.
“The past is not dead. It’s not even past.” — William Faulkner The Past Is Our Default Setting : The Hidden Neural Loops Most of us, most of the time, live in and through the past. But the past isn’t just what happened back then. It’s the neural networks grooved into our brains, shaped by … Read more
Read MoreYour Guide to Ending People Pleasing
The ultimate guide to ending people pleasing is intended to give you some practice guidance about what people pleasing is and how to end it. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of putting others’ needs above your own, saying “yes” when you want to say “no,” or constantly seeking approval, you’re not alone. … Read more
Read MoreAuthor Your Own Life
Be An Authority by Authoring Your Own Life Are you the author of your own life? Or do you feel like an actor in a play that someone else wrote? Like you’re performing a role for approval, acceptance, or peace? This is a heavy script to carry. Your life becomes a performance in somebody else’s … Read more
Read MoreIs Your Life A Silent Apology: Break Free from People-Pleasing
Is your life a silent apology? People-pleasers often live with an unspoken apology, constantly acquiescing to others’ desires at the expense of their own. This habitual surrender stifles personal growth and authenticity. Living on others’ terms is akin to painting a masterpiece with colors chosen by someone else. By consistently deferring to others, we diminish … Read more
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