Starting Over

Healing Shame

In my last post, I wrote about the deep roots of shame. I was invited by a reader to write a post about how we exit the hell realm of shame. The first step is to realize, and I mean unambiguously realize, that we are not the cause of our shame. Which is to say, … Read more

Mediums, the “Other World, Indigenosity and Christian Arrogance

I’d never talked to a medium before. I had heard this young woman in an interview with a highly intellectual man, downloading brainy men like Hegel, Feuerbach, Gebser and Spengler. She was not an intellectual, but she answered his questions by channeling these personalities with astounding clarity and simplicity. I decided to contact her. She … Read more

What Is a Therapist’s Role?

I’ve made a few therapeutic journeys in the last few decades. All of my therapists have been skilled. But I would say that my last therapist, Andrew Feldmar, is a master therapist. What constitutes mastery in a therapist? In part, it’s time. He’s been at it for over forty years and has seen pretty much … Read more

Suffering Our Way Back to Reality

To suffer is to submit to reality. Sounds simple. But if we could do it, we’d all be awakened souls. I’m convinced that this is the wisdom that saints, and holy women and men, throughout the ages either stumbled on to or knew by direct download. The Buddha discovered it under a Bodhi tree. Jesus … Read more

As We Forgive…

As We Forgive I attended Yom Kippur this past year, with my Jewish wife, Mia. It’s the holiest day of the year for Jews. My wife is Jewish. The theme is repentance and atonement for sin. These folks know how to do repentance. Three hours of singing about how they have hurt others through acts … Read more

Bruce Sanguin

Psychotherapist