News

We all had a day when play became a strategy.When expression became impression.When “being” quietly turned into “being impressive.”That’s the day we left the garden. Not with drama.With self-consciousness.A watcher took a seat in the front row of our mind and never stopped judging the show. Maybe you couldn’t penetrate a parent’s narcissism.No matter what … Read more

Mainstream Media In Mainstream Media Journalistic integrity is critical to a well-functioning free society. It monitors power and safeguards democracy. But is it working? Matt Taibbi teamed up with Douglas Murray to debate Malcolm Gladwell and Michelle Goldberg in the Monk Debates. The organizers framed the theme as: “Be it resolved, don’t trust mainstream media.” … Read more

The Spiritual Solution to People Pleasing? A Return to Love People-pleasing is not just a bad habit or a behavioral pattern to break. It is a spiritual crisis. The spiritual solution to people pleasing? A return to love. At the core of people-pleasing is a single devastating belief: I am unlovable as I am. This … Read more

Shame and self-expression are intimately related. The goal of life is to express oneself fully. It’s what we’re here to do. It rarely happens because full self-expression means full visibility. Full visibility, in turn, risks being judged and criticized by people who have no life of their own. You’ve put yourself out there, for good … Read more

Introduction: What Are Compensating Actions and Beliefs (CABs)? To understand people pleasing we need to understand the roots of people pleasing and how ego is formed. The foundation of ego—the self-protective construct we rely on to navigate the world—is shaped by what I call Compensating Actions and Beliefs (CABs). These are the behaviors, thought patterns, … Read more