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The Christmas Story Is About You: You Were Born Legitimate
What if the Christmas story is about you? I don’t mean that you are Jesus. I mean that perhaps we have made the Christmas story too small by treating it only as the story of one miraculous incarnation two thousand years ago. What if it is also an archetypal story about incarnation itself? A human … Read more
How to Live a Life of Your Own: What Marion Milner Can Teach Us
What would it mean to live a life of your own? Not the life your parents imagined for you. Not the life your culture rewards. Not the life you constructed in order to be accepted, admired, safe or loved. Your life. It sounds obvious. Of course my life is my own. Who else could possibly … Read more
From Ego to Heart Self: How to Stop Defending and Start Listening
Most of us assume our biggest problem is that we don’t have enough confidence. But what if confidence isn’t the issue? What if the real issue is that we’re living from a part of ourselves that was never meant to lead our lives? I call this the ego—not in the sense of arrogance or narcissism, … Read more
The Sin of Self-Omission
Recovering the Image of God Within Us The word sin has suffered a tragic fate. For many people it conjures images of guilt, shame, moral failure, or an angry God keeping score of human behaviour. It has become one of the least useful words in the spiritual vocabulary because it has been reduced to a … Read more
Your Spiritual Task Is to Become Yourself
It sounds almost too simple. We often imagine that spirituality is about becoming more loving, more enlightened, more disciplined, or somehow closer to God. But after years of studying psychology, theology, philosophy, and human development—and after decades of accompanying people through their deepest struggles—I keep returning to a surprisingly simple conclusion: Our deepest calling is … Read more