People Pleasing

Is Your Life A Silent Apology: Break Free from People-Pleasing

Is your life a silent apology? People-pleasers often live with an unspoken apology, constantly acquiescing to others’ desires at the expense of their own. This habitual surrender stifles personal growth and authenticity. Living on others’ terms is akin to painting a masterpiece with colors chosen by someone else. By consistently deferring to others, we diminish … Read more

Your Desires Are Legitimate

In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to lose touch with our true desires, often overshadowed by societal expectations and the demands of daily life. However, acknowledging and honouring these desires is essential for personal fulfillment and authenticity. Your desires are legitimate. Understanding the Essence of True Desires True desires are not fleeting whims or superficial … Read more

Why I Teach about People-Pleasing.

Why do I do this? I mean, be a psychotherapist and teach an on-line course and coach people to end people-pleasing? Let’s start with why am I a therapist? At the age of 20, in my second year of my undergraduate, playing for the varsity volleyball team I was struck by the question of meaning … Read more

Trade in Self-Justification for Self-Expression

There’s a big difference between proving who you are—and simply being who you are. Think about it for a second. How often do we find ourselves justifying, explaining, or trying to prove that we’re somebody—worthy, good enough, lovable? The Ego Is a Hustler That’s the ego talking, the part of us that feels like it … Read more

We Are Not Born People Pleasers

Made for Love We’re not born people pleasers. We’re born for relationship, to enter into a dance of intimacy with the world. In other words, for love. Somewhere along the line, we discover it’s not on offer. Or it’s hit and miss. The “miss” is what breaks our heart. Like, really, breaks our heart. The … Read more

Bruce Sanguin

Psychotherapist