Self-Respect
People Pleasing – An Overview
This post: People-pleasing: an overview is an introduction to people-pleaser psychology. People-pleasing arises from a deeply ingrained belief, often formed in childhood, that one is not enough as they are. This belief drives the need to generate added value to justify one’s existence. At its core, people-pleasing stems from the idea that one’s natural self—spontaneous … Read more
Read MoreYour Guide to Ending People Pleasing
The ultimate guide to ending people pleasing is intended to give you some practice guidance about what people pleasing is and how to end it. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of putting others’ needs above your own, saying “yes” when you want to say “no,” or constantly seeking approval, you’re not alone. … Read more
Read MoreBe The Author of Your Own Life
Have you ever felt like an actor in a play that someone else wrote? Like you’re performing a role for approval, acceptance, or peace? This is a heavy script to carry. To boot, your life is then a performance. In somebody else’s script. It’s a performance of the lines and the part that you think … Read more
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What Is Healing?
What is healing anyway? To answer that question, we need to ask another question: What is a human being? Healing is recovering from anything that causes you to feel and act less than human. Which begs the question, what is it to be human? I was listening to a podcast in which the host asked … Read more
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Endure Nothing and Nobody
I’m grateful to my mentor and therapist, Andrew Feldmar, for this principle. When he first dropped it on me I remember being speechless. I could hardly imagine putting it into practice. It’s wisdom spread through my system like a time-release capsule. Here’s why I think it’s so hard to accept, let alone practice. When we … Read more
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