Trying Harder Won’t Work

When it’s never enough, no matter how much you give, no matter how hard you try, you can be sure you are dealing with your inner people pleaser. The MO of the people pleasing personality is to try harder and fail – thus re-enacting what happened in childhood. Trying harder to figure out what you needed to do to be loved and cared for. But never quite getting it right, no matter what you did. But trying harder won’t work. In the end the only “fix” is to be yourself.

Because, there’s always one more thing you could do to make someone happy, to prove yourself, or to earn acceptance.

And yet, no matter how many times you push beyond your limits, it doesn’t fill that space inside.

Why?

Because doing more won’t heal what’s been hurting for so long.

You Are Already Worthy

This belief—this relentless feeling of “never enough”—is rooted in something deeper than the actions we take.

It’s an echo of an old story, often planted in us early on, that if we just try harder, we’ll finally be worthy.

But the truth is, no amount of doing can substitute for a true sense of being.

This is about knowing you’re enough because you are, not because of what you accomplish.

Today, I invite you to pause and consider this question:

What would it feel like to be enough, exactly as you are?

Who Are You Without the Fear of Being You?

For many, this question brings up fear.

Fear of being “found out,” fear of failing if they stop the constant hustle, or fear that, without the endless effort, their worth will fade.

But what if—just for a moment—you could step back from doing and practice simply being?

Just sitting in the quietness of who you already are, knowing that enough is not a target to hit but a truth to embrace.

When we start from a place of being enough, our actions can flow from genuine desire rather than desperation.

And that’s the path back to the Heart Self—where you are free to give from a place of wholeness, not emptiness.

Remember, if you’re repeating the mantra no matter how much I do it’s never enough, don’t double down on trying harder.

You are not here to earn your worthiness.

You are here to live it.

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