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Stop Trying So Hard
Who would you be if you were to stop trying so hard? Many who come to see me expect lots of homework between sessions. They have a problem that they want fixed. Obviously there is something wrong with them, and they think I’m in the self-improvement business. When I tell them that there’s actually nothing … Read more
Read MorePsychological Denial
The hardest part of recovering from failures of love in childhood is breaking through psychological denial. Denial is a defence against reality. It’s purpose is to keep us from seeing and feeling the truth of how we were being treated in the past and in the present. Ego and denial are synonymous. Ego is the … Read more
Read MoreSelf-Pity Is Not Self-Compassion
Self-pity is not self-compassion. Self-pity can become a go-to posture when things are not going our way. It is a feeling that life is conspiring against us. Even our loved ones are treating us unfairly. The boss is being a dick. It’s all too much to take. It’s not fair. And it’s entirely possible that … Read more
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Do We Heal from Trauma?
Do we heal from trauma? I had a session with my mentor, during which he claimed that we don’t heal from trauma. It was one of those shocking statements he’s famous for – at least in my world. It undermines the consensus of experts in the trauma field. I almost wrote the “trauma industry”. A … Read more
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The Immortality Key
I just finished The Immortality Key: The Secret History of the Religion with No Name, by lawyer, Brian Muraresku. Usually when I come across a book with “Immortality” and “Secret” in the title I groan inwardly and take a pass. But this guy dug into the science of his subject. The Jesuits educated him, and … Read more
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