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1883

Taylor Sheridan is making good TV. I watched the series, The Mayor of Kingstown and loved its gritty, dystopian tone. Then I watched two of his other filmsYellowstone and the prequel 1883. I loved Yellowstone and I hate it when prequels are lame. So it took me a minute to garner the courage to watch … Read more

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Stop Trying So Hard

Who would you be if you were to stop trying so hard? Many who come to see me expect lots of homework between sessions. They have a problem that they want fixed. Obviously there is something wrong with them, and they think I’m in the self-improvement business. When I tell them that there’s actually nothing … Read more

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Psychological Denial

The hardest part of recovering from failures of love in childhood is breaking through psychological denial. Denial is a defence against reality. It’s purpose is to keep us from seeing and feeling the truth of how we were being treated in the past and in the present. Ego and denial are synonymous. Ego is the … Read more

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Self-Pity Is Not Self-Compassion

Self-pity is not self-compassion. Self-pity can become a go-to posture when things are not going our way. It is a feeling that life is conspiring against us. Even our loved ones are treating us unfairly. The boss is being a dick. It’s all too much to take. It’s not fair. And it’s entirely possible that … Read more

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Do We Heal from Trauma?

Do we heal from trauma? I had a session with my mentor, during which he claimed that we don’t heal from trauma. It was one of those shocking statements he’s famous for – at least in my world. It undermines the consensus of experts in the trauma field. I almost wrote the “trauma industry”. A … Read more

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