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Psychological Denial
The hardest part of recovering from failures of love in childhood is breaking through psychological denial. Denial is a defence against reality. It’s purpose is to keep us from seeing and feeling the truth of how we were being treated in the past and in the present. Ego and denial are synonymous. Ego is the … Read more
Read MoreSelf-Pity Is Not Self-Compassion
Self-pity is not self-compassion. Self-pity can become a go-to posture when things are not going our way. It is a feeling that life is conspiring against us. Even our loved ones are treating us unfairly. The boss is being a dick. It’s all too much to take. It’s not fair. And it’s entirely possible that … Read more
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Do We Heal from Trauma?
Do we heal from trauma? I had a session with my mentor, during which he claimed that we don’t heal from trauma. It was one of those shocking statements he’s famous for – at least in my world. It undermines the consensus of experts in the trauma field. I almost wrote the “trauma industry”. A … Read more
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The Immortality Key
I just finished The Immortality Key: The Secret History of the Religion with No Name, by lawyer, Brian Muraresku. Usually when I come across a book with “Immortality” and “Secret” in the title I groan inwardly and take a pass. But this guy dug into the science of his subject. The Jesuits educated him, and … Read more
Read MoreHow Can I Be Happy? Part 2
How can I be happy? In the first part of this two part series I cautioned against making happiness the goal of life. Happiness is a byproduct of living well and living true. The focus needs to be on living your own life while creating as little suffering as possible along the way. Keep your … Read more
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