People Pleasing

The Ultimate Guide to Ending People Pleasing

Introduction: Are You Tired of Being a People-Pleaser? Well, the ultimate guide to ending people pleasing can help. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of putting others’ needs above your own, saying “yes” when you want to say “no,” or constantly seeking approval, you’re not alone. People-pleasing is more than just a habit; … Read more

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Be The Author of Your Own Life

Have you ever felt like an actor in a play that someone else wrote? Like you’re performing a role for approval, acceptance, or peace? This is a heavy script to carry. To boot, your life is then a performance. In somebody else’s script. It’s a performance of the lines and the part that you think … Read more

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The Hazards of Acquiescence

I once heard someone describe people-pleasing as living with a silent apology for wanting anything different from others. The word “acquiesce” comes to mind. To surrender or submit—an impulse many people-pleasers know well. (Properly understood, surrender – to what is – is a good thing, but I’m talking about capitulation). The pressure to yield to … Read more

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Your Desires Are Legitimate

When was the last time you gave yourself permission to feel your true desires? Without guilt, shame, or second-guessing? For many of us, especially those who have spent years adjusting to others’ needs and expectations, the idea of honoring our own desires can feel foreign or even selfish. We’ve been taught to believe that to … Read more

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Why I Do This?

Why do I do this? I mean, teach an on-line course and coach people to end people-pleasing? Why am I a therapist? It starts in an ayahuasca ceremony. After a bout of “cleansing” ( a polite way of saying puking as this medicine is a purgative.) I saw in span of a few minutes how … Read more

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