Why do I do this?
I mean, teach an on-line course and coach people to end people-pleasing?
Why am I a therapist?
It starts in an ayahuasca ceremony.
After a bout of “cleansing” ( a polite way of saying puking as this medicine is a purgative.)
I saw in span of a few minutes how my life hadn’t been my own.
From an early age I had curated a personality to pick up on what others needed from me.
To survive, to belong, to feel loved.
The upshot was decades of not living my own life.
I crawled out of the maloca onto a grassy knoll.
Underneath the bright and strangely caring moon I muttered to myself:
“My life hasn’t been my own, my life hasn’t been my own”.
The stars, acting as my witness, winked at me from above.
Telling me, “yup, that’s true, it’s okay, welcome home.”
To beautiful you.
I found my way back into the maloca, sat up on my mat, and focused my attention on each of my co-sojourners, one at a time.
I prayed a short, simple prayer for each of them.
By short, I mean three words.
Just. Be. You.
And I knew that this way was why every single person present was puking, and moaning, and laughing, and putting themselves through this ordeal.
To find their way back to the beautiful and radiant core of their being.
Their “you”.
Since then, I’ve dedicated my life to supporting others to find their way home to themselves.
And people-pleasing is the number 1 symptom that we’re trying to be somebody else.
Because of this terrible wound that caused us to believe that only by being somebody else could we be legitimate and loved.
Every morning I say this short prayer for all the people who receive these messages.
Just. Be. You.
Why do I do this?
Because it’s as close to me as I can get.
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- Free End People Pleasing Consultation: We’ll look at what exactly is going on in your life right now, establish best next steps for you to end people-pleasing: Click here
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