Flannery O’Connor’s short story, A Good Man Is Hard to Find, plays with the idea of goodness as conventionally understood.  A family sets out on a holiday with grandmother in tow. Grandmother, although of good Christian stock, is manipulative and willful. En route, they hear that a murderer named the “Misfit” has escaped from prison,…

The roots of narcissism may not be what you think. Typically we equate the narcissistic personality with somebody who is “full of himself”. The truth is the opposite. There is a vacuum where a self used to be. Therefore everything a narcissist does is motivated by filling the vacuum. Everything and everybody is recruited to…

I've been curating this piece for a month or so as my research on the pandemic deepened. The title reflects that I was initially addressing this to those whom I knew held a more mainstream opinion of what was going on. My divergence from the safety of the herd was painful. I found myself losing...

If you?ve worked with me at all, you?ve probably heard me use this phrase, ?Trade in the performance of ?good? for the practice of true. ?Good? is in quotation marks because ?good? behaviour rarely is truly good, meaning it’s not coming from a true place within. As Mark Twain put it, ?good in the worst sense…

??????? “I just want to be happy”. This is a fairly common refrain I hear from frustrated clients. And fair enough. Who doesn’t? I woke up this morning, feeling, well, not happy. And I wish somebody could have waved a magic wand and make unhappiness disappear. But happiness is a tricky thing. You set out to find it…